How To Truly Let Go
This isn’t a post that explains the benefits of forgiving yourself and others, it’s something that you probably already know about and something that I have explained before. If you want to learn more about why it’s important to forgive then check out these blog posts:
Do This And Get Happier, Healthier and Wealthier
True Success Is Impossible Unless You Do This…
But what do you do when you know it’s in your best interest to forgive yourself or someone else but you just can’t seem to get yourself to do it?
Forgiveness Is For You
The person that you are forgiving doesn’t have to ask for forgiveness or even deserve it. Forgiveness is for you so that you can get on with your life. Every day you spend in anger instead of being productive takes you one day further away from your goals and success.
It doesn’t matter if the person you are forgiving deserves forgiveness. You deserve to forgive them so you finally be rid of the burden it has on your mind and the time it takes from your day.
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Forgiveness Is Not A One Time Event
I used to think that once you forgive someone then you are done and you can get back to your life but it doesn’t work that way. Sometimes you forgive someone and in the moment you are really happy that you did. You spend the next hour or the next day or week allowing yourself to live your life but then you get angry at that person again. Something triggers your anger and you are still mad at the person you forgave not for something else they did but for the same thing that you forgave them for.
If you are thinking of reasons why you shouldn’t forgive them then you are simply arguing for your own misery.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not just seven times, but seventy-seven times!
In the above bible verse, Jesus isn’t just taking about the fact that someone may mistreat us several different times and several different ways and that we must forgive them. Jesus is also keen to the fact that as humans, we will forgive someone but later on we will forget that we have forgiven them and still get angry so we have to do it again. For our own peace of mind we must forgive.
Remember, this isn’t for them, it’s for you.
If you recognize that forgiveness is really for you then you just have to realize this:
Forgive someone at least long enough so that the feelings of anger and frustration will have a minimal impact on your life. Otherwise, you’ll spend hours or days letting the frustration eat away at your thoughts while you could have been working towards your goals. If you want to spend the day being productive and working towards your goals and your dreams and you don’t want to let any feelings of frustration interfere with it then forgive them just for the day.
You can always get mad at them tomorrow (I don’t know why you would want to but if it gets your through today then go for it.)
Every time you forgive someone (even if it’s just for the day), it will get easier for you to forgive them in the future until the forgiveness really becomes permanent and you can really get one with your life.
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